You thought you know your partner and you discover after a period of time that you do not. You become disappointed, suspicious and you wonder why hadn’t you find out more before you walk down the aisle.
Many people get married with the idea that their undying love for each other will keep them together forever. Marriages failed because couples did not find out more about each other before they got married. When couple discover each other faults or hidden secrets, suspicion and distrust surfaced.
There are many reasons why a person didn’t say more about themselves. It could be something they have done years ago and do not think it is important to tell. It could also be their attitude towards certain subjects like pets, health and emotions which did not surface during the dating period.
You could have an aching question about attachment to family which you feel might offend if you were to ask. You might even feel that it is not politically correct to ask certain question.
Take time to understand each other. Create an environment where both of you feel free to ask questions about each other. Make it like a game to know each other better. Ask questions like personal views, attitudes towards health, well being, and child rearing, past relationships, morals, convictions and beliefs. Asking questions need not be serious all the time, inject fun questions like favourite holiday destination, cars and driving, food, pets and favourite things.
When couple asked questions about each other, it creates an atmosphere of trust and openness. When couple understand each other, there is acceptance in the relationship and this is definitely the antidote for a lasting and loving marriage.
There is a book called 1000 questions for couples which consists of a comprehensive collection of questions that couples can used to ask each other. The ebook is not only useful for couples planning to tie the knot, married couples will find that it open doors to new understanding of each other.
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